All Summaries for On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Ever find yourself yearning for a deeper bond with those around you?   Creating deeper connections doesn't have to be an exhausting or daunting task. We can still create connections in the simplest most ordinary ways if we make time for it and show sincerity.  From the hustle and bustle of everyday life to the moments of solitude, we'll uncover the secrets to forging relationships that stand the test of time. Your social life doesn't have to feel like a performance – let's make it a celebration. Let's explore how broadening your emotional language can be the key to unlocking a world of deeper connections. Say goodbye to surface-level chatter and say hello to discussions that spark genuine connections. From sharing smiles with strangers to using technology to our advantage, each habit is a stepping stone to deeper relationships.  In this episode, you'll learn: How to bridge connection gap How to tune into yourself before making connections How to be more vocal about your emotions How to make new memories with old friends How to start engaging conversations Hope you're able to genuinely connect with someone today. Let's make every connection count! With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:36 Do you sometimes feel lonely, or disconnected from the people around you? 07:58 Habit #1: Check in with yourself - Does your social life start to feel like work or when your social life feels like it's non-existent? 14:14 Habit #2: Expand your emotional vocabulary -  If you wanna see, hear, and understand and value other people better, you need to expand your emotional vocabulary 17:56 Habit #3: Old new and new old - While we use nostalgia to build connection, try to build new memories with an old friend 20:44 Habit #4: Ask interesting questions - Go for more open and fascinating questions that won’t pressure other people to answer 23:05 Habit #5: Deep versus shallow time - Take the time to invest in creating a small group where you can build deeper connections  26:07 Habit #6: Look for patterns and connections where others don’t see them 27:20 Habit #7: Smile at strangers and say hello creates an energy for small moments of connection 28:40 Habit #8: Use technology to your advantage and connect with people you haven’t talked with in a while or reconnect with them anytime 30:04 Habit #9: Giving creates connect - When you give someone a part of you, a piece of you, a truth about you, it allows you to connect with them 30:52 Habit #10: Invite people for ordinary tasks - It’s okay to spend time with people in boring ways and connect with them 31:34 Habit #11: Connecting with people in all ages  Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do we often struggle when we are trying to build a lasting relationship with someone? Why is love not enough to make two people genuinely care for each other and stay happy together? Let's unpack the conversation I had with Lori Gottlieb. Lori is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which has sold nearly two million copies and is currently being adapted as a television series. In addition to her clinical practice, she is co-host of the popular “Dear Therapists” podcast now in its 4th season. In this digital age, the power of in-person conversations is unparalleled, therefore, face-to-face discussions not only ease challenging topics but also strengthen connections, even in times of disagreement. We will eExplore the fascinating urge to share our stories when conversations turn distant. Uncover the psychology behind this impulse and its impact on nurturing authentic connections. It's important to find the balance between desired traits and the potential for mutual growth. And boundaries aren't about controlling others; they're about prioritizing self-care.  In this interview, you'll learn: How to deal with unwanted peer pressure How to master difficult conversations The importance of setting early relationship goals How to balance the qualities we look for in a partner The positive impact of active listening How to navigate relationship triggers  Let's uncover the truths, debunk the myths, and reshape the way you perceive and nurture connections. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:02 What should you do if a friend is pushing you to do something that makes you uncomfortable? 03:24 In-person conversations ease difficult discussions; connection persists despite disagreement 05:16 Set relationship goals early; they reveal compatibility quickly 07:47 Social anxiety often mirrors our childhood treatment 11:51 The urge to discuss oneself grows when sensing disinterest or neglect in conversations  16:24 Your potential partner might possess certain preferred qualities, yet not encompass all you seek 18:26 Identify your deal breakers and let go of the relationship fantasies we grew up with 22:25 How to shift from rigidity to actively listening to your partner? 26:47 By comprehending your partner's triggers, you can guide them back to the present moment 29:28 Boundaries involve defining self-care actions, not manipulating others' behavior around you 35:14 Consistency with our self-set boundaries fosters meaningful connections 39:10 Let go of what you couldn’t have and then go find it in someone without trying to change them 41:41 What does money and gender roles represent in your relationship?  44:56 Having an authentic, open, and genuine conversation, even if uncomfortable, isn't unkind 49:22 Dating entails the concessions you're ready to offer and those your partner commits to as well 53:32 You can multitask your pursuits. It's fine to follow your passion while staying in your current situation 57:33 Journaling creates a safe space for self-expression, free from the fear of judgment by others 01:02:02 Journaling offers the advantage of cultivating accountability through increased self-compassion 01:04:45 A breakup is a form of grief, as you've lost a shared past and the gradually constructed future with that person   Episode Resources: Lori Gottlieb | YouTube Lori Gottlieb | Instagram Lori Gottlieb | Website Dear Therapists Podcast Maybe You Should Talk to Someone Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Relationships often start with a spark, but how do you keep that spark alive without getting burnt? It's a common question that many couples face as they navigate the complexities of maintaining a healthy and deep relationship. Today, we will look deep into seeing the differences between a toxic and a healthy relationship and uncover the ways to build a lasting one. Every relationship is different - but understanding these four different toxic traits that are common in relationships will help you move away from something that is not serving you.  Moving to a healthy relationship when you’re coming from a toxic one is difficult but finding the courage to do so is a crucial step towards your emotional well-being and personal growth.  In this episode, you'll learn: How to prioritize healthy love over perfection How to embrace each other’s unique identities How to avoid over-reliance and codependence How to practice transparent communication Hope that this guides you through a more healthy and happy relationship!  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:32 What is the real definition of healthy vs. unhealthy love? 03:56 Toxic Trait #1: Over-reliance on one person - Do you go to your partner for everything that you need? 11:41 Toxic Trait #2: The idea of trying to change someone -  We try to change our partners to be like us but have we ever thought about letting them be them and we be ourselves? 16:36 Toxic Trait #3: Playing games - Are you pursuing peace with your partner or are you pursuing power over your partner? 22:20 Toxic Trait #4: Losing your own identity - Don’t sacrifice your interests and independence for a relationship Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever been caught in the intricate web of guilt and shame, unable to discern their differences and the profound impact they can have on our lives? It is in the embrace of these complexities that we embark on a journey of self-discovery, unraveling the layers of guilt and shame to illuminate the path towards growth. In this episode, we shall delve into the depths of guilt, examining its many forms and manifestations.  Whether it's the persistent burden of past mistakes, the impact of our actions on those around us, the guilt that stems from unmet expectations and commitments, or the often overlooked sensation of privilege guilt, there are ways to overcome these emotions.  As we go through the different types, we shall emerge with newfound insights and perspectives, better equipped to navigate these complex emotions. Through understanding, reflection, and conscious action, we shall rise above guilt's shadows and embrace the light of self-forgiveness, empowerment, and transformation.  In this episode you'll learn: The difference between guilt and shame The different types of guilt How to deal with the emotional burdens of guilt How to grow from getting stuck in the past This is a journey of emotional growth, healing, and attaining inner peace that you wouldn’t want to miss. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:37 Let’s understand the difference between shame and guilt and how to define them 05:03 What are the different types of guilt we experience in life?  12:09 The five types of guilt and how you can grow out of it 13:51 Type #1: Do you often think of a past mistake and still feel guilty about it? 19:27 Type #2: You feel guilty when someone tells you how your action made them feel bad 24:03 Type #3: The guilt of not making time for others or letting someone else down 26:46 Type #4: The guilt of not having pain, of having privilege, or having safety and security    28:12 Type #5: The survival guilt, that guilty feeling when you’ve gotten through something difficult when others didn’t  Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.